"How can I meet a real man online that will love me?" Question and Answer

     I took a few weeks to answer this question because the answer isn’t very pleasant, and I needed time to find the right way to express it.

Sometimes while drawing, or during a conversation or while writing, we brainstorm — jumping from one idea to another until the solution shows up. I wanted to include these little details to keep it natural, and now I’ll get to the actual answer.

   Let me say this first, objectively — not from an overly optimistic or pessimistic view, just based on statistics and my own observations and experiences:

• This wish (or hope) is very pure and well-intentioned, emotional, romantic (if it's genuine, it’s something beautiful).

• Unfortunately, the creature we call “human” isn’t kind-hearted or good enough in general.

• When it comes to business or romantic/emotional relationships, finding someone truly worth loving — and I mean really special, loyal for a lifetime, sincere, and protective — well, everyone has different criteria for what they’re looking for, but if we’re talking top-tier quality...
  
  

It’s like 1 in 300. In other words, you might find one suitable person out of 300 solid candidates. So your options are:

• either show inventor-level patience and keep searching for decades,

• or be open to offers and give things a chance,

• or lower your expectations and make peace with whatever comes your way.

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   I think some people who read this answer might want to try their luck — whether out of curiosity or genuine interest — so I’d like to share a few humble suggestions for them:

• Use dating apps that ask hundreds of questions and don’t hesitate to pay. (When you pay, you usually get ahead of many free users. Of course, you need to do your research and find reliable apps — don’t spend money on just anything. Read reviews online and try your luck on 3–4 trusted apps.)

note: I’m not mentioning any specific sites to avoid sounding like an ad, but you can easily find algorithm-based and highly recommended ones with a quick Google search or by asking an AI.

• Take free personality/character tests to get to know yourself better.
  Here’s a free and useful one I recommend:
  16personalities.com
  
  
  

• If you think you’re into BDSM or kink:
  bdsmtest.org
  

These sites can help you understand yourself and also give you something to include in your profile or ad, by sharing your test results. That part is about presenting yourself better.

       If you’re serious and really ambitious about this, I’d recommend doing what I did here — make a list, a chart, or a table to lay out the key concepts.


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